Tip #1: Say I don’t.
Boston lawyer Tyler Summers, who specializes in divorce and prenups, revealed why young adults shouldn’t get married in their 20s.
In a 26-second TikTok clip with 3.5 million views, he explains why young adults should wait until they’re at least 30 to tie the knot.
“In your 20s, you’re still finding yourself,” Summers mentioned in the clip posted July 7. “You have no idea what you want long-term.”
Summers believes that people in their 30s have a better understanding of themselves and have financial stability, though.
“People that get married for the first time when they’re 30 they’re further longer in career,” he added. “Perhaps they have some money, they’re more mature. They are ready to have a long-term committed relationship.”
Couples who get married in their 20s are 50% more likely to divorce than couples who wait until they’re older, according to a 2016 study by Psychology Today, which noted the best age to get married is between 28 and 32.
“The person you marry at 21 is a very different person at age 28,” Summers continues.
Some married and divorced TikTok followers shared their take on the divorce attorney’s stance with mixed feelings.
“Getting married younger also makes you grow up together and mold together,” confessed a married woman. “I got married at 21 and no regrets. We grew up together.”
“Just get married whenever you want. There’s no correct age,” demanded one person.
However, a few folks agreed with Summers’ advice.
“30 is the perfect age!” seconded a divorcee. “I got married at 25 and now getting divorced at 27.”
“Everyone who disagrees with you is in their 20s,” laughed one person.
Despite being in the business of facilitating divorces, Summers advised lovebirds to just wait.
“Words of wisdom from a divorce attorney: do not get married in your twenties, period,” he said.