A woman has ignited fierce debate online after revealing that her friend wanted to charge guests around $20 to attend her gender reveal party.Â
She was left confused after receiving the invite, which asked guests to cover the cost of hosting the event and wanted to know if it was “rude” for her friend to expect this.
Is it bad taste to ask guests to pay $20 to attend a gender reveal?
Taking to the forum, r/NoStupidQuestions, she explained, “A friend is throwing a decent-sized gender reveal evening party, but they’re charging guests $20 for food and drinks. Do you think it’s rude to have your guests pay for food if you’re hosting it?”
“By decent sized I mean around 30 guests I think.”
She expanded further on her thoughts about the situation, saying she “didn’t mind paying” as it’s a close friend, but she still thinks it’s “bad taste.”
The OP also adds that the event isn’t at the mom-to-be’s house, but rather at a venue that will be fully catered.
The host also made it clear that she didn’t want any gifts.
The woman later explained that “one other guest” she had spoken to about it was “annoyed” but was keen to hear other people’s thoughts.
“They’re having a kid. Any financial support seems reasonable”
In the comments, people referenced the ‘no gifts’ policy a lot and said that it made a huge difference to their perception of the situation.
“I think to have an event like this but say no gifts is reasonable. If people are upset, don’t go, but I think that would be the wrong choice,” one top commenter said.
Another wrote: “Well considering they want no gifts, I don’t think it makes your friend classless.”
Then this user chimed in and added: “Yeah, I think I side with this person. I’ve actually never been to a gender reveal party… but they’re telling people no presents, 20 bucks, and they’re saying so ahead of time. I can’t imagine being upset about that. They haven’t sprung it on you on the day.”
“Look, they’re having a kid. So any financial support seems reasonable to me. Plus, I’d spend more than $20 on a present anyway,” someone else concluded.
“People don’t usually give gifts at gender reveals anyway”
On the other hand, others were opposed to the idea. “I wouldn’t go,” said one person.
They continued, “Gender reveals sound absolutely boring anyway, let alone if you have to pay. There’s a certain genre of person who thinks people are invested in their relationships and life, and they’re just wrong when it comes to me.”
A second wrote, “People don’t usually give gifts at a gender reveal anyway, so she’s just charging her friends and covering it up with ‘no gifts required’. But it’s not a baby shower.”
Then this person didn’t mince their words either, saying, “If you invite me to a party and then ask for money, f**k you. I’m not going to your stupid ‘party’.”
Finally, someone else made the point, “You’re going to find out the gender eventually. Keep your $20.”