Too much of a good thing can be bad — and being responsible is no exception.
Over-responsible people are often “please-pleasers” who neglect their own needs and feelings to prioritize others, psychologist Dr. Lalitaa Suglani explained in a recent Instagram post.
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“They often do good things for the wrong reasons because they don’t know of another way of cope.”
Tell-tale signs of over-responsibility are guilt when saying no or being yourself, struggling to ask or receive help, fear of “outshining others,” extreme independence and inability to trust that others will take on responsibility so you take it on.
Additionally, the “Therapised” podcast host said over-responsible people often play therapist for their loved ones but resent when people “feel entitled” to their kindness.
In an attempt to break the habit, Suglani encourages people who may be over-responsible to set boundaries for themselves.
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“Boundaries are where we begin and another person ends. Boundaries are about YOU and your needs.”
She also reminded her 132,000 followers that they “can’t change other people.”
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“You get to decide what you’re with. Don’t stress over someone’s negative response, we do not have control over how they react and we are not going to be liked by everyone.”
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